I was catching up with a good friend through Facebook messenger last night. It was like College all over again because we were reminiscing some of the funniest moments we had each other back then. I asked how he was doing in California and questioned him about having plans of pursuing her crush in work. His answer definitely brought my attention, “Aside from the fact that I’m not yet ready, I think I can’t handle girls and their PMS.”
—Okay. That part of the conversation clearly made me think of many things.
First of all, men should be taught what PMS is before they start judging.
What is PMS anyway? It stands for Premenstrual Syndrome. Many men think it is the period itself, but it’s not. So what’s Premenstrual syndrome by the way?
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) refers to physical and emotional symptoms that occur in the one to two weeks before a woman’s period.
So what is it in PMS that makes men go crazy? It’s the roller coaster of emotions that women get for at least a week before the main event begins. PMS can cause wild, uncontrollable mood swings in some women, who may go from crying spells to angry outbursts, then back to a stable emotional state – all in one day. Aren’t we lucky? Haha!
Maybe if men did a little research and attempted to understand what PMS actually is, they wouldn’t be a headache to every women out there. Granted, I have found men who are considerate and take time to understand, but only a few.
We are not free from any unrighteousness.
Even though I am a Christian, that does not make me free from unrighteousness. I’m no perfect. The Bible even says, “Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way,” James 3:2 (NLT) But being imperfect is not an excuse for us to keep on failing or sinning. Should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more and more of his wonderful grace? Definitely no. We still sin no matter what but there’s always God’s amazing grace. Though His grace does not grant that we have the license to sin. It’s a reminder for us that we need Jesus to overcome sin. We need to humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness.
Control your mouth and the power of words.
Studies show that most women prefer to do the talking than listening. Communicating can be a real challenge especially if you are someone who rarely listens. Let’s admit it. We talk a lot and quite often pay no attention to what we’re saying, let alone think seriously about the impact of our words. This is addressed to both men and women, think before you speak, an evil man pours out his evil words without a thought. Words are very powerful. It can either break or make.
Control your mood swings.
Proverbs 29:11, “A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back.”
We always have that monthly PMS that drives our mood from happy to angry then to depress. But there’s one thing that I learned from the past (Thanks to Justine Rondina). There’s no such thing as PMS because moodiness is selfishness. We say it’s all about the hormones. We always blame the hormones. But I think it’s just an excuse for us ladies. We are accountable for our own actions.
If our heart is right with the Lord, we would always want and choose to please Him and glorify His name. Whether it’s hormones or not, if you are a child of God, you should learn to control your mood.
Invite the Holy Spirit to fill you.
One has to constantly invite the Spirit to fill us. He is our comforter, helper and counselor. But how do we recognize the Spirit’s guidance? How do we discern between our own thoughts and His leading? After all, the Holy Spirit does not speak with audible words. Rather, He guides us through our own consciences (Romans 9:1) and other quiet, subtle ways. So anytime you become aware of your mood, whether you are feeling a bit gloomy or feeling cheerful and blessed, you should ask yourself: What have I been talking about? Does it bless or curse? Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you, to guard your heart and to take control of your words and actions.
Since we have the power to make our days better, we are foolish indeed if we don’t do it.
How about you, girls? Does your attitude reflect that of a woman of God? Are we pleasing God for all our actions or are we being a pain in the head?