To Love is to be vulnerable

1Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken..

2If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.3456

C.S. Lewis speaks so clearly and powerfully about what it means to love anyone or anything. That love can be difficult, scary, and at times depressing. But at the same time, it is beautiful, exciting and the best thing in the world.

The author mentioned that to love is to be vulnerable. It means that vulnerability is a necessary part of loving an individual. For you to be able to love someone, you’ll need to pull down your walls and allow this person in.

However, what’s painful in loving is that we get hurt or most likely get disappointed by the people we love the most. But what’s living if you aren’t going to love in the full capacity you are capable of?

At the end of the day, what then can we do? Take that leap of faith. Take the risk of loving and trusting people. There is always something to be gained when we go outside ourselves and learn to share in someone else’s world, even if only for a short while. This is true whether we’re talking about romantic love, love for our families, friends or just the daily struggle to love our neighbor. Just continue reflecting Christ’s love.

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Choose Godly men

For the past few weeks, I have been inspired by a handful of men I know and just met whose hearts are set on fire for God.

I want to thank God today for Godly men.

I thank God for using their lives– men who truly give their time, talents and treasure for the one True King. Oh, What a deep joy it is to see these men leading and serving God above all else. Because of this, they also lead ladies to live a life that put God first and to be a catalyst of Christ’s love.

Single ladies, it is my earnest prayer that you don’t make the same mistake that I did. For the longest time, I have overlooked priceless treasures because they did not shine right before my eyes. I have disregarded what the Bible said about being unequally yoked with an unbeliever because for a Christian to enter into a partnership with an unbeliever is to court disaster. Thankfully, the Lord opened my eyes that I could not spend my future with a man who doesn’t honor my God, most especially a man who can’t lead me to The One who gives me abundant life.

But, I praise God because He has allowed me to truly see beyond the superficial towards what really matters in the eyes of God.

– a man who leads and initiates AND does not mislead a lady but guards her heart.

– a man who upholds purity AND does not allow you to compromise.

– a man who stays humble AND vigilant against pride.

– a man who respects not only to a lady that he likes but to ALL ladies. In short, he is not a ninja who is always on the move to impress you.

– a man who is emotionally stable AND is secure in God.

– who not only reads the Word of God but meditates on it day and night

– who gets into meaningful conversation that inspire you to seek God more AND not on a meaningless chat.

and a lot more.

These men may be around you right now, and sometimes they are overlooked. But they indeed shine with the light of Jesus. Therefore, affirm these men and pray that may their rare breed multiply. Haha! 😊

A Love letter for you

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Dear Future Partner,

There are probably 6 billion people in the world. 6 billion different people with different names, different faces and different perspectives. Some of them are happy, some are confused, some are hurting and some are indifferent. 6 billion people in this huge world with 7 different continents, quite a big number yet amazingly one of them is YOU.

Perhaps, I’ll meet you in a little coffee shop where I usually study out and burn candles for the next dreadful exams, perhaps I’ll meet you at your favorite bookstore, in a church event where your heart is filled with so much passion worshipping our God, in a gathering where unnoticingly we exchanged smiles and laughter or perhaps at my favorite restaurant or like the usual stories in movies where we just bump into each other and capture each other’s thoughts and leave each other’s deep impression. I am just not sure where I will be meeting you but maybe, just maybe, you are just a quaint for all these years. And you might be reading this right now. I just do not know but one thing’s for sure, God is full of surprises especially when you make Him write your love story.

I may not know who you are yet- your name, your smile, albeit I’m pretty sure you have that lovely face. But it’s amazing to think that there’s someone out there for me that happens to do the things that I love/hate to do, slumbers a number of hours, eats my favorite dish, reads a good book, gets tired but perseveres, learns from past mistakes- More than that, I am just so thrilled to say that there will be a day that all the things we have been doing alone for quite some time will come to an end and we’ll start doing things together this time. We’ll get awkward on our first date together, hang out with our friends together, eat lots and lots of good food together, buy concert tickets and watch our favorite singers and bands, have deep conversation with about anything, go to church and worship God together, pray together, cry together, laugh together, dance and kid around whenever we want to, exchange each other’s iloveyous and iloveyouitmakesmecrazy. *kilig* Haha. Yes, this feeling of warmth and sometimes chill, the feel of crazy butterflies in my stomach… I am more than excited to know that we will feel kilig all the days of our lives and until I’ll meet you at the altar and exchange not only our “I Love Yous” but our “I Dos.” I am just excited to have our own perfect ending.

Always know that I am earnestly and constantly praying for you. I am preserving my heart for you and how lovely it is to think that you would also wait and pray for me. Wait ‘til the right time comes. At this moment, let’s just make God our partner for life before and after we find each other. Let’s wait patiently, pray fervently and start preparing ourselves to be the “right one” for each other. Let us enjoy our season of singleness because when I’ll meet you for the first time and say our first “Hi” and “Hello”, it will then be a meaningful start of our amazing journey together and I’m sure you’re going to love it. You’ll be the happiest man on earth just like the happiest woman that I will be.

To my dearest future partner, there are 6 billion people out there who could have my heart right now but I choose to wait if waiting means having our happy ending together with you and my God above.

Your future partner,

Delbeth

Wait for me a little more, will you?

1aWait for me a little more, will you? Wait for me ‘til I’m ready. Wait for me to finish medical school. Wouldn’t that be great not to have medical books in between our dinner dates and movie dates? That I no longer have to make our incoming exams and bimonthlies an excuse for forgetting our anniversary date. Wait ‘til I’m already a doctor. Until I am able to take care of you 24/7. Wait for me ‘til I’m mature enough, ‘til I’m ready to share my love to you, ‘til I’m already a wife material, ‘til I’m ready to become the mother of your children, ‘til I’m done chasing my dreams and you. Wait if you can. Keep those feelings intact. Wait even though waiting feels like a journey to a desert. Wait and be hopeful with the Lord. I’m pretty sure that even though waiting is hard, God’s grace will sustain you. Don’t focus on me. Focus on God, wait on Him, seek Him.

Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy. Build your faith and dependence on God, make your family happy, cultivate friendships, be the right person for me as I try to be the right person for you. And then when I’m ready, surprise me. I tell you, it will be one of the most beautiful moments in our lives. It will be worth the long wait.

Wait ‘cause I’m just here. I’m just working my way toward you.

Don’t give up on us… yet.

Yours truly,

Delbeth

The Girl in the Coffee Shop

I went inside the coffee shop to buy a cup of coffee to warm me up. To my surprise, the shop was jam-packed. So I began to look for a vacant chair and table. I searched from the leftmost side and to the right to find a girl sitting alone. I was really bothered to see her studying alone with two vacant chairs. Just as when I was about to complain, the barista whispered saying, “She has always been studying here at that round table, big books open, scattered around and stacked atop each other.” I was mad. Super mad.

I was about to approach her to ask if I could sit with her but the old lady at the other side began to stand to leave her table. Yes! Just about time. Thanks Old lady for the seat.

I finally toted my laptop to the coffee shop to make some headway on my novel. I bought a double espresso, sat down, flipped the screen up and discovered I hadn’t charged the friggin’ battery. So I sat there for a while, sipping idly and occasionally tapping the “ON” button as if that might make some sort of difference. When my eyes began to straight right through the border of my laptop, I began to look at the girl. She was laughing while reading her book or was it because she was enjoying the music from her earphones? I was certainly disgusted to find out that I was kind of enjoying the sight of this girl reading and enjoying her drink. Dude, better focus.

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Okay. I can’t focus. To pass time, I tried figuring out what book she was reading by heading to the comfort room. I passed by and found out that she was a medical student. Mmm. I see determination radiated from her.

Hours passed by. The whole time I was writing my novel with a pen I was also trying to find a way to talk to her or at least say Hello to her but I never wanted to look like a creep. Ha! It’s 10:00 o’clock in the evening and I had never been so productive. Wait, she’s leaving. No. Don’t leave yet. Wait! Why can’t I just talk to her? Darn, I just lost her. It’s moments like this that i wish I could rewind the time that I messed up. I didn’t even say Hello at her. I didn’t even catch her name or better yet get her number. She did look right at me. Smiled and walked away through that door.

It wasn’t over for me so I went back to the coffee shop the next day to wait for her. I ordered 3 different kinds of coffee drinks just to wait until the evening but she didn’t show up. I went back the next day and I still didn’t see her there. Just the smell of the Iced Caramel Macciato in the air sitting down. I just can’t believe that I blew the chance that I had.

Am I falling in love with the girl at the coffee shop? I don’t know her name but it’s her that I am always thinking of. Never would I have guessed that I’d fall for a stranger. Never thought that I’d fall in love with the girl at the coffee shop. With my desperation, I can’t believe I even asked an old man about her. I can’t believe I sounded like stalker or am I really a stalker?

*Tink* I heard the bell over the door tinkling. Then and there I saw her for the first time with her uniform. Beauty walked right in front of me with a book on her hand as she went to the cash register. “One Vanilla Bean Frappucino with Caramel, please.”

This is my chance. There’s no turning back. I approached the cash register looking at the book she was holding. It wasn’t a medical book but it says Do it. Wow. Thanks buddy for inspiring me to do this. Here we go.

“Excuse me, Miss. My Name is Derek. I’ll get the same thing but first make the girl’s drink a venti.” #SuperTheMoves

Sorry for the random story. Haha!

I Don’t Want To Date You… Just Yet

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To that one person out there…

I don’t want to date you if we are just driven with hormones and chemicals inside our bodies; instead I want to go out with you when both of us are sure that we are not controlled by just our emotions. We respect each other’s bodies by honoring it. We see each other beyond attraction alone.

I don’t want to date you when you’re not sure of yourself nor you’re not sure of us. Let’s bid goodbye to dating as something like trial and error. Let’s not see it as something that will decipher how sure we are of ourselves. Hence, let us first be saturated and secured on His love alone. Only in this way we’ll be able to say that we are certain of ourselves.

I don’t want to date you when you’re just after a heartbreak, because I want to give you that space to heal. I hope you’re giving yourself that kind of space too. I also hope that you will use that space to focus on God, on yourself, on your dreams, and on your family. So when the time comes that you’ll meet me, you already know that you are  complete.

I don’t want to date you if you’re not intentional, because being intentional means that you know your motive. And the motive behind dating and courtship is you see me as the person who’ll be with you and grow old with you.

I don’t want to date you if you think that your world should revolve around me, but I want to date you when you know that there is so much more to life. I want you to know that there’s so much beauty and wonder all around us. I hope you’ll see that soon enough.

I don’t want to date you if you still have dreams that will be compromised if you’re with me, instead I want you to use the time that you have now to explore, to try, to fail, and to learn.

I don’t want to date you when God is asking you to serve Him alone because I’m sure He’s asking you this for He is still pruning you and training you.

I don’t want to date you if I’ll just be getting your attention and focus away from God, but I want to date you when both of us will lead each other to Christ, and we love Him more than we love each other.

I don’t want to date you if you’re not yet ready to give up old (and bad) habits because true love also meant sacrifice. I believe that being in a relationship and being single are different responsibilities. In a relationship, you’ll not just think of yourself, but for the other person as well. So I wish you’ll be ready to give up selfish desires if you’ll be dating me.

I don’t want to date you if you think that I’ll change and fix you, nor will I complete you;I can’t and that’s not my job. God will do that for you. I want to date you because it meant to glorify God. The two of us will be persons who will go beyond  their egos. Two imperfect people who will strive to give a perfect love. And I do think that it will please God. So much.

I don’t want to date you just yet because I love you too much to grab this time that God has given you to become the person you are meant to be.

P.S. I don’t want to date a perfect guy and I know you’ll never be that.  No. I will date you because you’re man enough to pursue me and you’re godly enough to know that God is leading you to me. So please, let’s not be impatient. I know there are lonely and tiring nights. But I want to tell you that I exist, and God sees every little thing we do to honor Him. Let’s not give up on each other (even if we still don’t know each other yet). But I hope we strive to be as faithful as we can be. Just so you know, I believe in you. For that matter, for now, please wait. ….

 

To that one person out there…

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